“Stop talking about love. Every asshole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. It still doesn’t mean anything. What you feel only matters to you. It’s what you do to the people you say you love, that’s what matters. It’s the only thing that counts.” – The Last Kiss

I re-watched “The Last Kiss” this afternoon.

My husband and I attempted to watch it last night however he found it aggravatingly hard to connect with Zach Braff’s character. “WHY in the world would he leave her? He has nothing to complain about. I just don’t understand how his character is having a ‘crisis’?” 

I feel very lucky to have a husband who is much like Tom Wilkinson’s character. His character expresses that it’s not about how you feel about the ones you love, but how you act that matters. There will always be temptations in this world. A temptation doesn’t make an invitation.

For anyone out there struggling with that notion of it being the end, know that it never has to be. It may seem scary, and uncertain, and possibly a journey into the stagnant, but love doesn’t have to feel so final. Much like water, it can lay quietly, or it can create an immense tidal wave. If you want the water to dance, make it. A relationship can always grow, always contain marvel. The little things truly make all the difference.

I can’t speak for couples who have been married for decades. But I can say I am in awe of you. I have only been married for 3 months and to know it can last for 60 more years is remarkable. There will be ups, there will be downs. There will be deaths and births. There will be moments when we find ourselves wading in the shallow. The best part? We don’t have to stay there. We can always kick the settled water and play like children once more.

Love, B. R. Wren