Now, more than ever, I have found strength through people I have never even met. They are helping me through a withdrawal that only they can understand. Others can sympathize, but not empathize. Surround yourself with people who understand what you are going through. It will make the healing process a more bearable one.
Stethoscope – July 23, 2012
Over a year ago I wrote about loss. I said a person is like a drug and sometimes the addiction is just too much to overcome. You try to step away but the withdrawal becomes too painful. Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.
But then, there are those who do push away the familiar because they know it isn’t good for them anymore. They may want it and crave it yet they are resilient and brave enough to let it go. This bravery to overcome the widely known however can be a lonely road.
And here is where my new theory fits in the puzzle.
As much as people can be drugs, they can also be centers for rehab.
There are people out in the world who know loss the same as you, who know the mess you’re in; and when you find those people, you start to mend. They lay their hand on your heart and know the beats that are missing; they miraculously show you with simple gestures that you’re not suffocating but forging on day by day; and they most of all give you the medication of affection, empathy, and confidence that you’re ready to be your own person again.
I’m not just pointing toward the opposite sex. I’m talking about every human being whether it’s a boy, girl, elder, child, even acquaintance you never knew had the remedy to quiet your muddled world.
Time will always heal you; but reasons to smile again heal you faster.
Love, B. R. Wren